Everything is Finite

 Just before her death, my mom shared some information with me about the father I never met.  She told me he had been a "troubled man" and was either bi-polar or a manic depressive--she couldn't quite remember which one--and that he'd had "some time" in an institution at one point.  These were things she had gathered from his mother.  As I sat at her bedside listening to this revelation I remember thinking "...that explains a lot."
I'm going to tell you a story, a short one, a confession of sorts.  I have a secret, and I've only ever told my husband.  I have depression.  Clinically diagnosed-by-four-different-doctors, full-on depression.  Don't worry, it's okay. I'm okay. Mostly.
When I was a teenager, my pediatrician wanted to start me on a stabilizing medication because of some stuff I would say to him (or to myself) when my mother would leave the room.  You see, I had one of those extremely religious parents whose motto was to 'pray away' everything. I knew that she thought pills were for crazy people, and I didn't want to face her judgement. She also had a terrible habit of over sharing, and I did not want a single soul to know that I have "issues". So I begged my doctor not to bring this up with my mother, or prescribe me anything.  Because Dr. Smith and my grandmother were childhood friends, and the fact that he had also been my doctor since birth he decided on a more gentle approach to my care.  It was a bit unorthodox, but we set up weekly telephone calls. I had to call his office every Thursday afternoon at 4:00 pm so he could see how I was doing. To me they were just silly conversations about my life, but I grew to depend on these talks.  This went on for years.
Dr. Smith would give me coping mechanisms and mental exercises to help me get through. I'm eternally grateful to him, and whenever I'm in my old home town I lay flowers on his grave and say a prayer and send a loving 'hello' to him.
In my 20s, I finally got on a medication that helped me. I could focus, be more coherent and process my thoughts one at a time, instead the swirling tornado that it was. My problem now is that I'm pregnant and these kinds of medications would have a negative impact on my growing baby. I've had to take a hiatus from them for most of this year, and rely on those old coping skills Dr. Smith taught me. Some days are manageable, some are not. Some days I avoid everyone, and dream of blood and death and feeling like I'm in a dark, cold cave and other days I feel like running through a rainbow meadow giggling wildly. Some nights I can rest just fine, and others I can't sleep and feel achy and stiff all over. When I have these bouts of insomnia I try to do something that will distract me, for even 5 minutes.

I've been working on this painting for a few weeks. It started as something floral, but that made me feel bad so I thought of something that makes me feel good. Water. I love hearing, feeling, smelling, and seeing water--even when it's not so pretty. Frozen, steam, falling, green, blue, loud, still--I just love water. So I thought of rain. I closed my eyes and pictured a soft rain falling onto my windshield, on a leisurely long drive home. The kind of rain that you barely hear, and doesn't threaten your trip. It's heavy enough to coat, and blur lamp post and night traffic all around. It makes oil spots seem twinkly, and twilight exciting. This is my finished piece.

This is "rain" in ambient lighting.

"Rain" at dusk, just as the sun is setting.

This is my favorite way to see this painting, mid-morning when everything is brighter and clearer.

It's the same painting, just at different points of the day. I look at it and try to remember that things change. Almost every part of life is temporary, including what I'm experiencing now. I know this, and my hope is that if you are experiencing something overwhelming and grueling to get through...please remember, there is an end in site.

Thanks for visiting.~Grace K.

Leaves & Water

One afternoon I was sitting in my truck with my two kids, flipping through an old Michael Aram Designs catalog. Most of his stuff is outrageously expensive, but a few years ago I stripped, painted, and re-knobbed an old armour and LO and BEHOLD! I found the most exquisite Michael Aram Knobs at Lowes. They were polished nickel stone pull knobs, for a very reasonable $4-6 (Can you tell I like to shop?)

Anyway, we were waiting for my husband to come out of an office building. As I had these water/stone/leaf/nature metal designs swirling in my head, it suddenly started hailing. Really hard, really fast, and really short. It was one of those freak flash weather things that last a few minutes and then the sun breaks and the sky clears as if to say "'whoa, hommy! my bad, here you go."

Well instead of freaking out, my kids thought it was THE coolest thing ever so we sat back and enjoyed the roar of ice pellets hitting everything. Like I said, it was over in minutes, and evaporated before my husband returns to the truck. So as we're getting settled back down, my son reaches up and pulls back the inside slide to reveal the sunroof and this is what we see.
I thought it was gorgeous. These leaves were so delicate, and teeny tiny. I snapped a few pics, as we drove on (I wasn't driving). That night after I put my kiddos to bed, and had a glass of wine I wipped out my pencils & added a few mental images from this scene into my sketch pad. I like to just doodle sometimes. I think everyone to create something everyday. Written, drawn, choreographed and recorded, large or tiny--doesn't matter, make something. I try my best to follow this advise because it may not specifically flow into a manifestation of the original idea, but it most assuredly will spark some madd, cool, crazy, funky idea. So I sketched this...

...and I liked it. Like I said, it hasn't coalesced into a concrete painting yet, but I'm having so much fun turning over images of water and leaves in my mind.


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